I recently read a wonderful book by Dr. Stan Toler titled, “The Secret Blend.”
The book, which is set in Seattle, chronicles the tale of a young businessman who stumbles upon this quaint, out-of-the way coffee shop and its owner, who teaches the man about the true meaning of success in life relationships. Of all the books I have read as of late, this one affected me the most and has resonated with me ever since I finished it.
The book caused me to reflect on my own life and my interaction with friends, family and co-workers. I began to realize that everything in life is predicated on relationships — our relationship with God and our relationships with others.
I began to think about the word of God and what it has to say about relationships. In Matthew 22:37-40 (NKJV), a lawyer asks Jesus what is the greatest commandment in the law. Jesus said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind.”
This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”
This is not the only place in scripture that illustrates God’s directives for the relational aspect of humanity. Micah 6:8 (NKJV) says, “He has shown you, O man, what is good; And what does the Lord require of you but to do justly, to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God?” All three of these imperative statements have to do with how we interact with God and our fellowman.
Our humility before God is the centrality of our relationship with Him, and to treat others with mercy and justice is the centrality of our human relationships.
The simple fact is we need each other and the intimate interaction of a local church body. If you are not regularly attending church, I encourage you this year to find a local church and become involved with other believers, and find God’s blessings in relationships.


