Time isnít fair.
When I first started working in this business, I was dating a girl on the local college basketball team. Now, Iím older than most of the parents of college basketball players.
But thanks to getting married late and starting a family later, my two boys help keep me young. I just hope I get to be the ďcool dadĒ for a few more years before they put me out to pasture.
Right now, my sons want me to coach their baseball, soccer and basketball teams. They love any time where it is just them and their dad. My soon-to-be 12-year-old still thinks it is cool to go to Christian music concerts with me.
But I know that wonít last. Soon, Iíll just be a gray-haired ATM.
They will still want me to buy their tickets to the concert. They just wonít want me to go with them. Their friends will replace me in the hierarchy.
But that is fine by me, because ó unlike some men who become parents when they are much younger ó I know how this story ends. All of the investments I am making in them now will pay off in the end.
I still remember going with my dad to work in his janitorial service on weekends. We always made time to go fishing when the weather was right. And no matter when dad got home from work, if we were playing football, he was the quarterback. If we were playing baseball, he pitched to us. If it was basketball season, he showed off his set shot that was surprisingly effective until I was 13 and taller than him.
But then, when the opportunity came, my friends and I played sports in parks and gymnasiums and I wasnít in the backyard when dad got home.
I stopped working at the janitorial service and started mowing lawns.
Our relationship was still great. It was just different.
I realized far later than I should have that all of those games we played and all of the work we did was my dad raising me. He was showing me how to become a man and setting a standard he hoped I would surpass.
And now I look at my sons and I am glad I realize that my time as their coach, buddy and best friend will soon be over. Iím going to enjoy every second of it and invest as much time and effort into this period of life as I can.
You canít stop time. It marches on and all you can do is make sure you spend it the right way.
This is a great time with the boys, but it will soon be over. I just hope I remember when that time comes that my job isnít to be their buddy, but to be their father.
This is a stage and the next stage is coming whether I want it to or not.
There are only so many days until that time comes. Something tells me it is a good idea to invest that time wisely.
Kent Bush is publisher of Shawnee (Oklahoma) News-Star and can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Kent Bush: Time is limited, invest it wisely
Time isnít fair.